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If there are 1-2 people at work that you like, I would initiate something. I have found work people become friends when you go out, more than when you drop by their office for 10 min. Just casually say to someone "we should get lunch/drinks etc." to see their response; if they don't give you a look of horror, then within a week or two, set it up and when you go out talk about something other than just work. I'm not the most comfortable person in the world but I have found that when I ask someone at work to hang out, they almost always do. I am too insecure to ask directly so I still play the "we should get lunch sometime" line just to guage reaction but I've never gotten anything but a "yeah - that would be great" reaction; just don't wait on them to plan it or get back to you.[/quote]

OP here.  Thanks for your thoughts.  I do initiate a lot--but don't get invited to things myself very often.  I have never initiated at work, though.  If I were to initiate something at work, say getting brunch with a co-worker, they would probably agree to it, we'd have brunch, have a nice time, and then they would never invite me to do anything or they would be pleasant but neutral at work.  This has happened to me over and over again when I have invited people out to do things (not at work, but through various social clubs, etc.).  Then I feel rejected, and it's just rejection after rejection and then I start to wonder what is wrong with me that they didn't reciprocate, that they didn't want to hang out again.[/quote]

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