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[quote=Anonymous]OP - this is something that happens particularly in big cities. If you lived in a small town, chances are you would have known everyone around you since before high school, you would know who has family in the area or not, who is best friends with who etc. Here, the area is so large that it's not possible. And people are so into work and the "busyness" of their lives that they assume that everyone is constantly busy so they don't initiate. They may not be asking you to do anything because they are not thinking about you or because they are thinking you have a huge family and a busy life outside of work.

If there are 1-2 people at work that you like, I would initiate something. I have found work people become friends when you go out, more than when you drop by their office for 10 min. Just casually say to someone "we should get lunch/drinks etc." to see their response; if they don't give you a look of horror, then within a week or two, set it up and when you go out talk about something other than just work. I'm not the most comfortable person in the world but I have found that when I ask someone at work to hang out, they almost always do. I am too insecure to ask directly so I still play the "we should get lunch sometime" line just to guage reaction but I've never gotten anything but a "yeah - that would be great" reaction; just don't wait on them to plan it or get back to you.[/quote]

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