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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to expand on this:

"Now somehow MY daughter is the one facing consequences. She was forced to stay after school, missed her bus, and now we have to report to the principal's office even though she was the victim. Her entire summer is now ruined because of this."

What are the consequences she is facing?  The fact that she had to stay after school that day and you both have to have a conversation with the principal?  Seems to me like normal procedure for both people involved in a fight.  Are you certain the other person did not face the same "consequences"?  Her summer is not ruined.

You are right to be upset that your daughter has been bullied and that she got in a fight.  But being extremely over dramatic about what has happened after the fight is not the right approach.  
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Cut OP some slack, she was posting emotionally right after the incident. Put yourself in her shoes and consider that you, too, might catastrophize a bit or post a despairing comment on an anonymous board in the same situation. It does not encapsulate her entire response, it's just what she wrote here to strangers in a vulnerable moment. Getting fixated on it instead of focusing on the broader picture (OP's daughter needs a plan for approaching the meeting with the principal and it's important she and her mom properly communicate the context of the incident).

When someone catastrophizes in an emotional moment, you can help them by staying grounded in reality, not by flipping it around and criticizing their emotional response to a very upsetting situation. Something to remember when dealing with teens, too.[/quote]

Wow.  I was not attacking at all.  And I specifically validated the feelings.  I was providing well-intentioned advice on the best things to focus on.[/quote]

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