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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Easy- stepparents don’t belong there. Only parents[/quote]

What if the stepparents have been in the kid's life since they were toddlers and essentially helped raise them. What if stepparents are footing the college expenses? [/quote]

It's not about you!

It's not pay-to-play. You can't outbid the other parent at auction for this role, that's not how it works. And you can't exclude a bio parent because they have less money FFS, it's not a country club! If there aren't enough seats, kid picks or defer to bio parents. The kid didn't ask for divorce and stepfamilies and all the complexity and tedium that it brings. If the kid wants to have both their bio parents there and that means no tix for stepparents, so be it. Sometimes kids are trying to build a relationship with their bio parent by including them, so the kid may feel it's important to include them *even though* they weren't around.

I'm not clear what "essentially helped" means. You helped or you didn't. [/quote]

Whoa. Simmer down there. It's a simple observation.

Did you ever consider that not ALL people hate their stepparents? Did it occur to you that many have good, positive relationships?  I don't think you because you seem trip-wired to denigrate ALL stepparents.

BTW, I am an adult stepchild FWIW
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