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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When has a student’s behavior ever been the teacher’s fault?

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Not the behavior, but the lack of skills to manage the situation. In my experience behavior problems could be easily managed by good teachers.[/quote]

I’ve been teaching for over 20 years and I have strong classroom management.

Student behavior has changed dramatically. A teacher’s toolkit (the ways we can address behavior) has been greatly diminished by administrative policies.

You can’t compare what we experienced decades ago to a modern classroom. [/quote]

Can you be specific about what tools have been taken away? I don't doubt you, I just want to understand specifically what teachers are no longer allowed to do.

FWIW, I also feel like some of my tools as a parent have been deemed socially unacceptable. I often feel I am the only parent in our peer group who actually disciplines my kid, and I get side eye when I do things like make my kid go home if she cannot play well with others or denies her a treat due to poor behavior. At the same time that it feels discipline is no longer acceptable, I also get judgment for encouraging my child to exercise independence, such as having her play at the playground across the street on her own (she's 10, I can see her from my office window) or walk home from school alone.

I feel the default parenting for UMC parents is (1) give your kid whatever they want regardless of behavior but (2) never let them out if your sight until age 13. I think it leads to a lot of entitled, helpless behavior.[/quote]

What you're describing is what we're seeing as teachers (25+ year teacher here). It's not all parents, it might not even be a majority of parents, but there are a number of parents who object any time their child is held accountable, even in the smallest ways. They want their child to encounter zero obstacles. A child who is never told "no" at home will act out in school when they encounter boundaries and expectations and this results in the poor behavior OP is describing. A teacher's influence is minimal, and many parents go right to the HOS, bypassing the teacher entirely, when they object to a consequence or boundary their child has been given. [/quote]

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