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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your statement that you have no friends concerns me. Why is that?  I'm wondering if she's kept you isolated.  I disagree with the policy re no being friends with ex's because I don't think policies of any kind work in a family, unless it's a physical safety issue.  I think marriages and families should be conducted so that people want to be there. You should conduct your marriage so that the sexist human alive could throw him or herself at your spouse, and the spouse will say "Thank you, I'm flattered, but I'm not interested".  Your wife has friends, why don't you? I am wondering if she also implemented a "no friends of the oppisite sex" policy, and since you're a stay at home dad, there goes your social support network. You mention that your wife has "girls weekends" what about you? Do you have anything you do that you enjoy?  Whether or not your marriage survives, you need and deserve friends. You need and deserve hobbies.  [/quote]

OP Here.

No, she never kept me isolated. We moved up here and she got pregnant right away. I stayed at home. She didn't. Her friends are coworkers. I have no coworkers and thus no one that I see often enough to really bond with. I've been going out to social events and meeting people over the years, but none of those people are close enough to sleep on their couch or share these problems with. I have plenty of close friends, just none in the area. I don't think I can, legally, pack up my daughter and head to one of their houses until we sort things out. She'd never go for that.

The no friends with exes thing was her idea, but I went along with it because most of my exes were conniving and sending inappropriate things. She said the same about hers. The "girls weekend" would've been the first of its kind. That's what made me suspicious in the first place.

Once this is over, I plan to go out and reclaim some of my time. I did deny some of the things that I wanted to do, because her hours at work were so demanding. She isn't extremely established or successful, so there wasn't an option for her to just quit, find another job or demand change at work. She works at a place where it's pretty much, "You can be replaced." The downside to getting free time to do stuff I want is that it will be on the days when I don't see my daughter, so it'll take a while to get used to that. [/quote]

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