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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: to the PP who grew up in neglect - sorry your Mom didn't go trick or treating with you, let alone didn't move you into the dorms. No joke, it's just irresponsible. My DS stopped trick or treating when he was 12, he now stays home and gives out candy, but I always went with him and his friends. And I go with him on college tours. I can't imagine NOT moving him into the dorms.

I do, however, want to stress the need for independence among today's teenagers, and just let it ago. Let them make their own plans, don't drive them everywhere. It teaches responsibility. So they will take a bus if they don't own a car. Or an uber. Or ride a bike. But to call another parent and scold them for "not picking up your child", especially if that parent is ill, is rude, unnecessary, and ridiculous. If she expected me to apologize and go "yes, Ma'am, I will do better", well, she was wrong. [/quote]

I have a 17 year old. A lot of this is contextually dependent, especially in the DC area. When we lived in DC, it was fine for DC to walk and take public transit. Now we live in Potomac and public transit is mostly a non-starter except for some pretty basic bus routes, and driving is more of a minefield because kids aren't driving from Tenleytown to a garage in Shaw in city traffic (alone, with friends, or in Ubers), instead they're driving on 270 or the ICC and that's a totally different ballgame. Where do you live and do your kids' friends live in the same neighborhood (meaning is this a public or private school situation)?

It sounds like your heated phone call was a bunch of things rolled into one. It's rude to criticize another parent, but also kind of crazy to hang up on someone. Is it possible their child isn't allowed to Uber and yours is and that's where the conflict is? Is their child a girl?

While I do know lots of overprotective parents (17 and still not allowed to get a permit) I also know ones who tout independence but have virtually no boundaries and it's in the name of abdication of responsibility. There's gray zones, too.[/quote]

Your kid is 17 and can’t even get a permit?  What’s wrong with your kid?[/quote]

What’s wrong with YOU that makes you unable to read?[/quote]

Oh…it’s another protective parent…of course.  Classic DCUM.[/quote]

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