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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sure, all of the above. But being in my 50s and seeing pretty much all my friends get married, and having the benefit to see which marriages last and which don't.....

The biggest correlation is mental health issues.  Mental health issues honestly drive almost all the things people mention in the previous posts.

Google AI says 25% of people suffer mental health issues in any year - depression, anxiety, adhd, bipolar, personality disorders, asd.  But obviously depression and anxiety are the biggest bucket, and they can come and go.  So 25% in any year, results in much higher numbers of marriages impacted over the life of the marriage.   Legit mental health issues run through probably 50% of our friends marriages (which incidentally tracks with the 25% number - assuming only one half of the couple is struggling with mental health).

I look through the recent divorces in our world, and can pinpoint: 
- ADHD/depression/bipolar as the clear reason for divorce
- severe depression 
- ASD plus sex addiction (daily prostitutes - ugh)

Those are all diagnosed. My best friend's husband has SOMETHING going on but refuses to diagnose. My guess is BPD. They'll divorce soon enough.

In short, while plenty of marriages last through the mental health issues, the divorces i know were all directly linked to mental health issues.  So while i can't answer OP's question of what makes the good relationships good, the bad ones are clearly mental health related. [/quote]

Agree[/quote]

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