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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you don’t really know what’s going on in people’s relationships. I can’t think of a single relationship where once I see a little under the surface, it’s what I would describe as good. Many start off this way, but I think raising kids in this society invariably destroys hetero marriage.[/quote]

That's a really sad commentary on life. I can't speak for others, but I know I'm in a happy marriage. It's not perfect, because people aren't perfect and life is hard, so yeah, we get annoyed with each other sometimes, but we've been married for 15 years, together for longer than that, we have two middle school kids, we both work full-time, and we've been through the death of three parents, job changes, moves, death of pets, etc. You can believe me or not but our marriage is good. I have one other friend couple of whom I would confidently say the same, probably two. But they're my two best friends of many decades and we know a lot about each other's lives. [/quote]

I think there are just stages of life that are not happy sometimes.  For example DD had a rare health condition.  For years it was very hard.  I did not feel that DH really had a grasp of what was going on or was supportive emotionally.  I would not call my marriage happy in those years, I don’t really know what I want thinking about the marriage.  But he was there.  He was driving us halfway across the country to appointments, he was sitting beside me in the hospital, he was often very confused about the medical stuff and not really able to connect with my concerns, but he was there.  And sometimes that really is enough.  Your spouse is your person that you walk through life with and it’s not necessarily the happiest and he’s not necessarily the best match for you but you know what, sometimes just being there is enough.[/quote]

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