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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your mother is wrong on multiple fronts. 
I understand her lasting resentment against her siblings for not helping her elderly parents, and if she wants to cut off contact with them, that's a legitimate choice on her part.

But her first mistake is to visit the sins of the parents unto the children, ie, cut off the now-adult children of her siblings, who are not at fault. The second mistake is to expect that this fight should be perpetuated between descendants who had nothing to do with the actual events that triggered the fallout.

I feel strongly about this because it happened in my family. My grandfather contravened the laws of inheritance in the country he lived in, to have his only son inherit the bulk of his considerable estate, and left all his daughters in the cold. After a 25 year court battle, his daughters were finally given a fraction of what they were legally entitled to, because a lot had been spent already and the son was not required to pay them back the entirety of what he owed. Thereupon the son's wife and daughter declared all that side of the family were dead to them and I have never been able to contact my cousin again, or her three young daughters. Rifts in families like this are traumatic for all the innocent children and grandchildren who grow up without knowing their extended relatives.

So you are doing the right thing, OP. Your mother is a lost cause. Think of yourself, your relatives and future generations. 
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Wut??? Your family is living proof of why OP should side with her mother. Yikes.[/quote]

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