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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She knows she might be a “target” because you already said other fashion choices have made her one.  She knows and she doesn’t care.  You should encourage and support her ability to not give a f* and to do what makes HER happy.

This is a blessing OP.  Many many teens get in trouble from peer pressure, caring too much about other’s opinions, and wanting to fit in.  Your daughter is not afraid to stand out.  Good job mom!  Keep up the good work![/quote]

It sounds like she DOES care though.  She just hasn't been able to make the connection between how she dresses and the rejection/teasing.  I think it's wonderful to be your own person and do what you like.  Unfortunately it can make you a target.  The fact that she's hurt and bothered by this means you need to step in.  In a perfect world, you'd be able to get her to see that other people's opinions on her are dumb and that people who make fun of her for how she dresses are people she shouldn't want to associate with.  But that's in a perfect world.  The world we live in means you need to help guide her a bit and explain why certain outfits are making her a target.  Maybe she can wear the shirt with jeans and a pink headband. Or the overalls without the headband.  It can be about her keeping most of her style, but tampering it down a bit.  [/quote]

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