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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had to look up who Ms. Rachel is (I don't have toddlers).  Seems she mostly just dresses like a fairly normal person, albeit a little out of style?  Overalls  and t-shirts?

I'm not sure why that would make her a target.  Perhaps I'm missing something, but I would let my kid dress however they want.  If there are social consequences they will learn.  You say she's not ND, which would change my response.[/quote]

Pink shirt, overalls and a pink headband are her staple look.

It will most likely make her a target as past fashion choices have…

I do think I need to just let her naturally learn those lessons (whether justified or not). [/quote]

That's the point--pink t shirt and overalls may be her staple look, but I have a hard time believing that kids pay so much attention to what others wear that they're immediately going to think about that.  It's not as if she's dressing up like Ronald McDonald or Wonder Woman.[/quote]

[b]Middle schoolers think A LOT about what others wear. It's top 5 in topics they think and talk about. Of course they are going to notice and likely unkindly discuss this girls pink shirt and overalls. [/b]

I would tell my child irs a fashion choice that her peers likely wont understand. I wouldn't force her to change but I would prepare her for judgment.[/quote]

Yes, but it’s far worse today:  any sort of clothing which is out of the ordinary will be photographed, then shared all over the school by social media within minutes.  And mocked.

Middle schoolers live under a microscope today.  Any and everything they wear or do is recorded, posted to social, and subject to ridicule.

They use phones at lunch and to/from school.  There is no escape. [/quote]

This is scare-mongering. I've had two middle schoolers in recent years and I've volunteered at their two, different, public middle schools. No one ever comments on other kids' clothing, instances of bullying are promptly addressed, and really, clothing is NOT a big deal.

Yes, kids can be nasty at that age. But there's also a lot of emphasis in schools on preventing bullying. 
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