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[quote=Anonymous]Two of my kids moved back in.  We have set rules right in the beginning for things that could be conflict points and that's highly effective in keeping a peaceful household.  They are as follows:

everyone has assigned parking and you cannot use another's space (we definitely have the same issue as OP if we don't enforce this, though this did come up in HS when they all started getting their own cars, so it's pretty established)

everyone has to participate in dog care which is coordinated by us - we know everyone's schedules, so we let everyone know when they are on feeding and walking duty and when they are totally responsible because we'll be out of town (a huge benefits of older kids living at home)

you can eat with us or cook for yourself.  We don't cook for you except in extenuating circumstances

you can eat food we buy but we don't ask for their grocery lists.  we do keep on hand things we know they use, like coffee creamer and certain veges

everyone does their own laundry but once you start, you can't leave it sitting (that's been a rule since middle school)

we have a house cleaner who will clean rooms if the doors are open.  bathroom door must be open on house cleaner day

we don't pay for anything except the groceries we buy and things like laundry detergent and soap and shampoo

everyone has to do their share of the household responsibilities - one is assigned to trash, another to the dishwasher, yard work is shared with duties and schedules specified by us, one takes care of things like oil changes on all of our vehicles, etc.

if you use common space in the house, you have to clean it up and get it back to the way you found it [/quote]

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