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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband needs to take a step back from volunteering for everything. You know this.
Every other kid on the team or den get a break from parental expectations and involvement. Yours doesn’t. Every extracurricular his dad leads. 
He’s told you his needs repeatedly and you’ve marginalized and ignored his needs repeatedly. [/quote]

+1. DH should not be coaching/leading every single activity for years and years if your kid hates it. WTH. How have you let the dynamic go on this long? Now, I am a doer and I totally understand feeling like you/DH can't do nothing. So pick one activity. Or maybe let DS pick. "OK, we have to do our part for these activities, which you love so much. So DH is going to coach/lead only one thing this year, which should be do?" Have him do that and drop the rest. Maybe the scout troop falls apart, [b]but other parents will 100% pick up the rec sports or the organization will step in.[/b] It may be that he doesn't like being overshadowed by his dad/how much other kids like his dad. That's a TOTALLY valid feeling for a young kid that you shouldn't just entirely delegitimize or describe like it's pathological. [/quote]

DP - but they won't. Not for rec soccer. They will literally tell you there's no team for your kid because there aren't enough coaches. The system runs on parent volunteers and there are too many freeloaders. [/quote]
My experience with rec soccer (and this will vary by league) is the players that signed up last will not make a team if they don’t have enough coaches. I’ve coached a couple seasons, and I’ve learned that I wait until the third or fourth email saying they’re short on coaches. So sign him up for rec soccer as soon as it is open, and wait until about the fourth email to volunteer.
We also volunteered with scouts. After seven years, we were done. My husband struggled to get other adults involved, but when he finally said “I’m done” and actually LEFT, amazingly other parents finally stepped up. Honestly, I was really pissed off, because for years we had been asking and asking and asking and asking and asking, and once we quit, three or four parents stepped up.[/quote]

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