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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he see the kids now?  Its none of your business.  You move on, so he should get to move on.  They can visit or he can visit them here.  They will be away at school and will not see him that much if they spend holidays and summers with you.[/quote]

Yes, he does. We each provide about 50% of support and he sees them multiple times a week.
Again, I know there isn’t anything I can do about it but it will hurt my kids emotionally. There is a difference between moving on with a new partner and staying in the kids lives, and moving to another country and starting a new life that doesn’t include them. None of us are wealthy and airfares would be a significant expense for my kids or my ex and[b] I’m afraid the result will be [/b]he will gradually just recede out of their lives and [b]they will be disinherited[/b].

I am not asking what to do about this, but how to help my kids cope, and hoping to hear from others who have BTDT, what to expect, etc. So the “MYOB” isn’t relevant here.

I’m sorry for you if either of your parents walked out of your life when you were 18. That sucks.
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Ah, now we get to the actual issue.  OP copped to it quicker than I expected she would.  [/quote]

Two things can be simultaneously true. 
And why shouldn’t I be sad if my kids are disinherited by their dad? He wouldn’t like it if I went off and disinherited them.[/quote]

Inheritance should not be the priority.  And, it should be his choice, if he has money, depending on the relationship.  He is no longer your husband and has very limited time with the kids.  You moved on, why can’t he?  [/quote]

I would be very hurt if one of my parents left the country and focused 100 percent of their time and resources on a new relationship.
My parents are divorced. Both have found new partners. My dad is involved in our lives, but my mom has not made it a priority. I don’t dwell on it, but it hurts. I don’t know why you think it’s cool.[/quote]

Its not about you and your experience.  You cannot expect dad to remain in the area once the kids go to college and they stay at Mom's during holidays and summers and he only sees them a few hours a week.  They can fly out once or twice a year and he can come once a year.[/quote]

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