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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know someone who had a decade long affair. It was a family friend.
They are in their 80s now, still together. A child and grandchildren live right around the corner. They present a united front, deeply committed to the family they formed. I don't think they would have been happier without each other.

I think that she accepted that although he dallied, his liege and loyalty was to her and the marriage.
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I read this and felt an immediate recognition. This was me. I spent a long, agonizing year standing on that same precipice, weighing what leaving would mean against what staying might require of me. In my case, my spouse was deeply remorseful, did the work to make meaningful repairs, and has remained fully committed to our marriage since.

I eventually understood clearly that I would not be happier without him. We loved each other, imperfectly but sincerely. People are flawed, marriages are tested, and forgiveness, when it is earned and freely given, can be an act of strength rather than denial. I chose to stay, and with time and repair, I am deeply grateful that I did.[/quote]

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