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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he see the kids now?  Its none of your business.  You move on, so he should get to move on.  They can visit or he can visit them here.  They will be away at school and will not see him that much if they spend holidays and summers with you.[/quote]

Yes, he does. We each provide about 50% of support and he sees them multiple times a week.
Again, I know there isn’t anything I can do about it but it will hurt my kids emotionally. There is a difference between moving on with a new partner and staying in the kids lives, and moving to another country and starting a new life that doesn’t include them. None of us are wealthy and airfares would be a significant expense for my kids or my ex and[b] I’m afraid the result will be [/b]he will gradually just recede out of their lives and [b]they will be disinherited[/b].

I am not asking what to do about this, but how to help my kids cope, and hoping to hear from others who have BTDT, what to expect, etc. So the “MYOB” isn’t relevant here.

I’m sorry for you if either of your parents walked out of your life when you were 18. That sucks.
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Ah, now we get to the actual issue.  OP copped to it quicker than I expected she would.  [/quote]

She's also probably concerned about the child support/income for her as it stops at 18.  Dad can help kids directly.[/quote]

OP here. Child support already stops at 18, so what does this have to do with anything?[/quote]

Read the post, she was worried about money.[/quote]

This is OP. 
I am not worried about money. I make a decent living and have never received alimony or anything beyond the state mandated child support, which was never that much because on paper we have shared custody. The child support ends at 18 regardless of where ex decides to live, but it’s fine, the kids will be in college and at least the college finances are settled.

I am sad that their dad doesn’t seem to want to be a part of their adult lives. Knowing they will be busy with college and jobs anyway doesn’t make it easier, because it will require even more of an effort for them to spend time together, and ex doesn’t look like he wants to make that effort.[/quote]

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