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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]None. I wouldn't even call my husband stupid, much less worse than that. Intelligent people don't resort to name calling when in an argument. [/quote]

Not to parse words here, but..  is “don’t be so stupid!” name calling? I don’t think so. PP who said we are our own boundary on this is exactly right. [/quote]

I mean, isn't it? On what occasion would you say that to your husband? I think calling someone stupid is rude and unproductive. Does it even describe the behavior accurately or clearly explain how you feel about what he did? To me, it doesn't. So I prefer to use words that make sense and further discussion. If my husband left a bag of trash on the bag porch, for example, and the dogs got into it when they went outside, I suppose I could say "don't be so stupid!" but what purpose does that serve? Can you give me an example where that works, and by works I mean helps the person who did the thing to understand what they did and how you felt about it?[/quote]

PP again. I, personally, would never say "don't be stupid" to my husband or anyone. But, how is that different from "don't be ridiculous," which is often said, especially in the heat of an argument? The point is, for OP, I think everyone has the right to set their own boundaries on what is acceptable here.

I also believe that there is a difference in using these words as adjectives to describe behavior, as opposed to nouns to name call. "That was a jerk move" is different from "you're a jerk."[/quote]

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