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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Teens can be very difficult. I have one hard, and one easy. If I just had the easy one, I would think I was parent of the year on this board.

Hang in there OP and take time for yourself.[/quote]

This. I have 3 kids. One hard, one super easy, one in between. 
The hard one almost drove us insane last year. I was counting the days until her departure. 
She's now at college and we talk every day. We've become super close. 
We just really needed some space and she desperately needed to go to college. [/quote]
np.. yes, I think my teen is just so done with HS and all the social drama they've endured through K-12. They are looking forward to a fresh start.

DD and I had a fractious relationship, always bickering.  DH was at his wit's end. LOL .  I realized that I was not helping by yelling (I have a short fuse and I'm a yeller).  I worked really hard to not yell at DD while arguing, and I tried to be more understanding of what she was going through and how she felt.   When she would start to get belligerent, I made her pause and told her to calm down, and that I am also trying hard to not yell, and needed her to do the same.

DS from college was home when DD and I were "discussing" something contentious, and later he said to me, "Who are you, and what have you done with my mother?"  He said he was super impressed that I didn't yell and kept my cool.

i definitely find that if I start yelling at her, she will yell back, and the heat just goes up.  It's not always perfect, but our discussions have definitely been calmer, and I have had to let things go.   DH keeps saying let her learn the hard way, but that's really hard for me to do.  I don't like to see my kids make huge mistakes that I know will hurt them in the long term.  I try to talk to her calmly, and tell her that if she wants to be treated like an adult, then she also has to act like one and make adult decisions and take on adult responsibilities.

We are still pretty close, and I will miss her. And I know she will miss me, too.

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