I still don’t really understand the issue here because the op didn’t add context here.

Did you guys get into a fight or something?

Anonymous wrote:Can't stand my teen. I'm counting down the days to graduation so they can get the hell out. So sick of this s**t.

OP I feel your pain. I feel the same way about one of mine. Unfortunately I have 3.5 years to go. Much better relationship with the other kids thank goodness.

You raised them so

Anonymous wrote:Yes, try little love and caring instead of getting all worked out. They're still kids at heart. Mine just passed his driving test and on the way home we drove by a fancy chocolate place we used to go to when he was little -- I said, hey, let's stop buy and get you <insert a certain treat he used to love>! So we did and the teen was so happy like a little kid

I think this is the best plan. Show some love!

Yes, try little love and caring instead of getting all worked out. They're still kids at heart. Mine just passed his driving test and on the way home we drove by a fancy chocolate place we used to go to when he was little -- I said, hey, let's stop buy and get you <insert a certain treat he used to love>! So we did and the teen was so happy like a little kid

Anonymous wrote:It's called soiling the nest, and normal and healthy. They are doing so that can leave for college, spread their wings and fly.

Yes, it's miserable for all living under the same roof, and, this too shall pass. When they come home from college for Thanksgiving break, all will be well. Don't expect to see them a lot during that time, as they will be out with HS friends. Just set limits (you need to be home for Thabksgiving meal by xx, and you need to be at your sister Larla's birthday lunch by yy.

I was going to say just this. Soiling the nest.

They need to make you the enemy so breaking away from you is easier for them.

Of course not all do this, my oldest did, my younger one didn’t. But with my oldest I thought the timing of college was genius - just as we had both reached our limits, I got to drop him off at college. And then was so excited to see him a month later for parents weekend.

Hang in there, OP!!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel the opposite.. so sad to see my baby girl go.

I was going to ask… does everyone feel this way? I talk to parents in real life who tell me they cannot wait for their kid to leave. My kid is a junior, and the thought of him leaving makes me so sad (of course I want what’s best for him, etc). Will I feel very differently in a year?

It depends. Last year, I felt a bit better because it seemed so distant. But this year, especially with her ED result and commitment, everything is starting to feel real. She’s excited, but it’s also bittersweet knowing she’ll be going away, so she’s been wanting to spend more time together, and is sweeter & more pleasant than ever.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel the opposite.. so sad to see my baby girl go.

I was going to ask… does everyone feel this way? I talk to parents in real life who tell me they cannot wait for their kid to leave. My kid is a junior, and the thought of him leaving makes me so sad (of course I want what’s best for him, etc). Will I feel very differently in a year?

I feel bittersweet.

On the one hand, I can't wait for them to leave so I can have my own life. I can travel during the school year when flights are cheaper, and it's not as crowded. I also want to redo the rooms and clean the house top to bottom. Thinking of maybe renting it out or selling when the youngest leaves for college. Neither of my kids are attached to the house.

On the other hand, I will miss them. I enjoy it when my DC comes home from college. As they get older, our conversations have changed. We talk more about adult things, and it's pretty neat to see them grow into adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Teens can be very difficult. I have one hard, and one easy. If I just had the easy one, I would think I was parent of the year on this board.

Hang in there OP and take time for yourself.

This. I have 3 kids. One hard, one super easy, one in between.
The hard one almost drove us insane last year. I was counting the days until her departure.
She's now at college and we talk every day. We've become super close.
We just really needed some space and she desperately needed to go to college.

np.. yes, I think my teen is just so done with HS and all the social drama they've endured through K-12. They are looking forward to a fresh start.

DD and I had a fractious relationship, always bickering. DH was at his wit's end. LOL . I realized that I was not helping by yelling (I have a short fuse and I'm a yeller). I worked really hard to not yell at DD while arguing, and I tried to be more understanding of what she was going through and how she felt. When she would start to get belligerent, I made her pause and told her to calm down, and that I am also trying hard to not yell, and needed her to do the same.

DS from college was home when DD and I were "discussing" something contentious, and later he said to me, "Who are you, and what have you done with my mother?" He said he was super impressed that I didn't yell and kept my cool.

i definitely find that if I start yelling at her, she will yell back, and the heat just goes up. It's not always perfect, but our discussions have definitely been calmer, and I have had to let things go. DH keeps saying let her learn the hard way, but that's really hard for me to do. I don't like to see my kids make huge mistakes that I know will hurt them in the long term. I try to talk to her calmly, and tell her that if she wants to be treated like an adult, then she also has to act like one and make adult decisions and take on adult responsibilities.

We are still pretty close, and I will miss her. And I know she will miss me, too.

GL

Anonymous wrote:Can't stand my teen. I'm counting down the days to graduation so they can get the hell out. So sick of this s**t.

stfu

Anonymous wrote:My boys are lovely and easy. My girls are constantly either angry or crying about something. I have 2 of each and I am also really done. It's very stressful. I guess I just am not prepared to constantly be dumped on with people's emotions. Don't even get me started with the husband and his emotions ... shoot me now.

This poster brings up an interesting point. There may be a gender split.

I have B/G twins. I feel relief the day one leaves to go back to college after break, but not the other. I raised both, and I love them both. But one (the girl) is moody and negative, and generally argumentative. She and I get along better when she's away. Kids can be very different from each other, even if they grew up in the same house with the same parents. Parents of easy kids, don't be too smug. Parents of difficult kids, don't be too hard on yourselves.

And to the posters who said "you get the child you raise" or the like - get over yourselves.

My boys are lovely and easy. My girls are constantly either angry or crying about something. I have 2 of each and I am also really done. It's very stressful. I guess I just am not prepared to constantly be dumped on with people's emotions. Don't even get me started with the husband and his emotions ... shoot me now.

Anonymous wrote:I feel the opposite.. so sad to see my baby girl go.

I was going to ask… does everyone feel this way? I talk to parents in real life who tell me they cannot wait for their kid to leave. My kid is a junior, and the thought of him leaving makes me so sad (of course I want what’s best for him, etc). Will I feel very differently in a year?

Genuinely surprised by the comments here. Maybe you have not hit the difficult years or you have been blessed with easy kids.

I love my teen! I also enjoy the HS years much more than the MS and ES, when the child is necessarily more needy and helpless. What's not to love? The endless hours of helping with one or the other thing are almost behind me: homework help, sport practices, driving around, arranging playdates, laundry, cooking several times a day etc. etc. I honestly don't get how everybody doesn't love the HS kids.