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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though. [/quote]

Stop being a curmudgeon.  If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.  
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I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.[/quote]

Which is fine. I don't know why you guys are so hung up on doing something for Valentine's Day. It's just one made-up celebration. You can have a very low-key day to mark the occasion, or do nothing at all.

Separately, no one "needs" to get out. Maybe you need to get out, but other people don't. You two need to stop believing that everyone else should live the lives that you lead. Everyone is different, and that's OK.

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I’m going to disagree.   I think you are a bad parent if you show your kids that married people don’t do anything romantic on Valentine’s Day, and that parents don’t leave the house other than to go to kid’s various events.

If you make being an adult with a family look like a boring slog, your kids aren’t going to want to grow up.  
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??? Wow, you're dumb. You don't understand that your kids see your daily interactions with your spouse and those matter far more, due to the weight of cumulative observation, than one day in the year?

I mean, how can you be this stupid? Happy, functional families do not need Valentine's Day. Indeed, this holiday does not exist in many parts of the world.

If you want to celebrate, that's entirely fine. But don't put more importance on this one day in the year than on all the rest of the days. You need to behave like a loving, caring person then too. That's what's actually important.

- married 22 years with adult kids and teens.
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