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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't "moved on". My childhood shaped me in lots of ways - some very positive and some very hard. I spent years figuring out who I am and who I want to be, and what some of the drivers of my behaviors are, etc...

Lots of therapy. Lots of work. Lots of patience.

I accept that my parents did the best they could.

I accept that their best was in many ways profoundly damaging to me.

I accept that they loved me and were products of their own damaging past.

I love them.

I craft careful boundaries around my interactions with them so that I felt safe and could still have a relationship with them.

I'm an adult so for quite some time have felt like I get to have primary responsibility for who I am and want to be. They shaped me but I get to reshape me as I see fit.

I did this for decades and managed to make it work. Both parents are deceased now and I have no substantive regrets - which I consider a HUGE blessing. That was pretty much my best case scenario.

So it's never really been about "moving on" for me. That just doesn't ring true.
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