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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seriously, the proportion of posters who say biglaw is out of wack.   Why is that?  [/quote]

Because being a big law lawyer in DC kind of sucks. Most everyone I know hates or hated it. It's a grind, and for many people, it's not sustainable for any sort of work-life balance. [/quote]

+1 and some of the posters, like me, are older. 20+ years ago when tech was not as advanced and remote work was what you did from an airplane on paper while traveling out of town to see a client in person. Investing in newly emerging tech (cell phones, lap tops, broadband) was very expensive, and law was slow to adopt.

Before I had kids, what I saw and learned from partners who were parents was not good. They delegated everything related to their lives outside of work, and in attempts to get home, sometimes delegated even more to the people who worked under them, making those lawyers lives even more miserable as you waited in the office for the partner to call in after the kids were in bed. Several only ever talked to thier kids by phone before bedtime. P[b]artners had drivers for them and their kids, chefs, three shifts of nannies, housekeepers, and cleaners. Most ended up divorced. Everyone drank too much. [/b]I attended a few funerals where the eulogies from the adult children of these parents gutted me.

Many associates left when they became parents. The year after I left, the firm instituted a committee to explore ways to keep parents and a program to keep those who left engaged in the hopes that they'd come back some day.[/quote]

Not all of those things are big.  We work in big tech and small law, and we have a driver, one nanny, not really a chef, but someone who delivers meals that we can reheat, a weekly housekeeper, a gardener, and a responsive handyman.  We don't drink.  We spend a good amount of time with our kids.  We use our nanny to clean and do their laundry, and we prioritize making it to as much of their stuff as we can.  The big thing we are lacking is time for ourselves.  Like, exercising 3 days a week is really hard right now, and I used to run two marathons a year before kids.  If I quit, it would be to give myself time.  I don't think that by working, I am failing my kids.  [/quote]

What’s your HHI to afford all of that? Sounds like it makes the day to day so much more stress free. [/quote]

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