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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please tell us where these men are and what they do professionally. I do not know anyone who got married and divorced and, in their mid-30s, also makes enough to support two families. I have trouble believing (despite what they are telling you on dates) that they are financially savvy. [/quote]

You sound like you're looking to be a SAHM. Most divorced men don't have exes who were SAHMs -- they had exes with jobs. None of the divorced men I know are supporting their ex and the kids on their own. They split assets down the middle with no support payments at all because they make around the same as their ex and can provide about the same for their kids. It's DC -- it's lots of dual income professional couples where both people have decent paying jobs and grad degrees.

In this situation, pairing off with another white collar professional is often extra desirable because the one aspect of your life that suffers most from divorce is housing -- you have to sell the family house it to split the proceeds, or one person has to buy the other one out, and housing here is so pricy. But if you can take the proceeds from your sale of the family home and combine your income with another UMC professional, you can return to pretty much the same quality of life as pre-divorce pretty easily.

Now, if you are a single woman looking for a man to support her while she stays home, none of this is going to work for you. But most late-30s single women have careers and are fine working after they marry. If you wanted to SAHM you should have prioritized finding a man in your 20s, preferably via church or synagogue, because the men who want SAHMs usually marry early.[/quote]

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