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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think this is remotely an unusual feeling; it is just basic empathy, of course intensified by the closeness of your relationship with your kids. In fact, as another lawyer, I would go so far as to say that of course I empathize with my clients' emotions as well (when relevant), and more so, those of my friends, parents, DH, etc.

I think what is crucial is learning how to process those feelings and ensuring that they do not impair your conduct or relationships. For me, I am obviously bad at the initial boundary, but pretty good at compartmentalization. So, although this may sound oddly practical, I like to quite literally have something to do after a conversation has me "feeling someone's feelings"--work, an active chore, a social event, etc. The worst for me (dealing with a DC with anxiety) is to have this type of conversation right before e.g. going to bed (that would really be a sleepless night). With respect to kids, I also think again, quite literally, I would limit my involvement in their personal life as another PP suggested, and certainly would not be looking at texts or fishing for information.

Basically, I do not think you are going to just "stop empathizing" at this point, so I think you have to structure your life (sometimes quite practically) to ensure this is to the benefit, not the detriment, of your relationships.  [/quote]

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