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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sister was wonderful in caring for Dad, who died after a relatively brief but painful illness. We all did what we could. 
Now Mom, in her nineties, is failing. Sister says, "I'm not doing it again." I understand her, and am willing to partially pay for help and visit when I can, given my full-time job and troubled teen. 
[b]My brothers are apoplectic. How can she say that, what kind of daughter says that, etc. 
I'm with her. [/b]
Thoughts? Mainly concerned how to deal with my brothers, who are really out of control. They live far away (Texas) and visiting is harder for them. They're also not that close to Mom. 
This is uncharted territory for me. [/quote]
[b]I hope to f***ing god that you are sticking up for her when they spew this sh*t. [/b]You have toxic misogynistic a$$holes for brothers.

How can you say this is uncharted territory when it's literally already happened? Anyways, she's made it clear she doesn't want to be the hands on person. This means everyone chips in, or the estate starts getting drained for eldercare. They can do plenty from texas - applying online for homes, research on home care aids etc. [/quote]

SERIOUSLY on the bolded. Caring for a dying person is difficult and likely traumatic. I'd respond to my brothers that each of the three of us need to take time off to go take care of mom and giver sister a break after she cared for dad. And the be ready for all the excuses from your brothers. Hopefully they can fill the void of in-person caring with money.[/quote]

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