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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your mom own a house?
Does she get social security 
Does she have other money?

Your answer to your brothers is “no, it’s not horrible. [b]what’s horrible is you moved far away without taking into account how you would care for our parents”[/b]

Then figure out the money and get your mom into a safe environment with good care and supplement that care with a companion.

It’s her money don’t try to save it for yall. 
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Good advice other than the bolded, which is flat-out ridiculous.  [/quote]

No it’s not. It points out they don’t care about mom’s care. Some kids stick around knowing mom and dad will need someone. These men DID NOT GAF about mom and dad. [/quote]

Wondering how common this is. My brother hasn’t visited my 90 year old mother in three years. He’s wealthy so it’s not a question of finances. Do men just bail?[/quote]

NP. Yep, they really do, for the most part. Some are different, but it's common enough that I talk to my female friends about not being the child who lives closest. NOT that they shouldn't be involved, but when a daughter lives closer than her brother, that is inevitably the linchpin that any discussion of caring for parents and distribution of resources rests on -- not that she is a woman, but that sh "lives closer." Take it out of the equation, and the discussion can't default to that. 
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