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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would bring it up to the coach.  Bullying is a Safesport violation and it is reportable.

There might not be anything too it, but the coach should try to foster an atmosphere of mutual respect on the team.

Talk to your coach, tell him your DD is considering quitting the team. I am sure the club leadership would be concerned if they knew the reason was bullying.

Send your coach this link to a handbook to help prevent bullying:
https://eptoolkit.uscenterforsafesport.org/prevent-bullying/?_gl=1*ixxa3u*_gcl_au*OTQ4MjA3MDgzLjE3NjAwMzEwNjg.*_ga*NDUxNjQ1MTQ4LjE3NjAwMzEwNjg.*_ga_MBN6TFWKW0*czE3NjAwMzEwNjckbzEkZzAkdDE3NjAwMzEwNzckajUwJGwwJGgw&_ga=2.104619267.2055339808.1760031068-451645148.1760031068

If nothing works, you can report it here:
https://safesport.i-sight.com/portal
1-877-587-7233

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Not OP but if the mean girls are the coach’s kid, the coach’s nieces, or the coach’s kid's bff what are we going to do?[/quote]

Learn how to help your DD actually become a better soccer player—so the ones out there giving it their all don’t keep getting frustrated week after week by teammates who just… aren’t.

These are kids, yes—but they still need guidance. Some are naturally competitive and take their sport seriously. They expect the same effort and focus from the players beside them. And honestly? Some kids just aren’t built for that level of competition—and that’s okay! Maybe a softer sport, or a solo one, would suit better.

Otherwise, help your DD close the gap. Watch film together. Catch matches on TV. Get extra touches in outside of team practice. Confidence builds competitiveness.

When everyone’s dialed in—mentally and physically—the whole team thrives. It’s that simple.

ChatGPT strikes again… with facts.[/quote]

The player can become better when there is a better environment--either they leave or that group of bullies/ignoramuses leaves. A lot of times the talkers/yellers actually are saying the wrong stuff and have a much lower soccer IQ than the silent leaders who don't have the same personality but have better touch and better soccer IQ. This happened to DD -- not specifically bullied but ignorant talk from the loudest players on the team, one of whose parents was constantly saying "be a leader" to her loud DD. Being a leader doesn't mean talking the loudest especially when your kid doesn't know what she's talking about and has the first touch of a brick. An specific example is this loud player incorrectly vacated her space and the person she was marking to get involved in a play where team already had an overload/numerical advantage of players, so DD had to cover two players at once, and when the other team of course slid it through to the player that was suddenly unmarked and DD tried to intervene the ball went to the open player who scored, the loud player and her mom-coach were yelling at DD about why did she leave that person open yadda yadda yadda. When that player and several other probelm players/parents left DD was happy again and that positively impacted her play.[/quote]

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