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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are the son and DIL in this scenario and while we don’t begrudge DH’s sister/BIL receiving more assistance (nor would I ever want my MIL to provide full time care) it does have a lot of secondary effects that have fostered resentment and led to our distancing ourselves.

For example, when we’ve asked MIL/FIL to visit for a child’s special event or to help out during a couple of genuine family emergencies we’ve been told they can’t because of their childcare responsibilities to the other grand children.  Also, when we do get together for extended family gatherings our kids feel left out because of all of the constant stories and references to things that grandma/cousins have been doing together that they weren’t a part of. [/quote]

I was coming in to write this exact post but someone did it for me.

It's tough - my parents visited all the time before my sibling had kids but now, limited to weekends. Definitely has impacted our relationship with them all. (At the same time, I know if I lived locally, my parents would also sit for my kids for free.)

It will be a tough situation for your son. Doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. (As a kid, I was your daughters kids in this scenario - grandparents watched me for free daily my whole childhood - was super close to them - they had a much more distant relationship with my cousins.)[/quote]

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