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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not an uncommon experience. You can really reduce being targeted, though, through some behavioral shifts.  [/quote]

What behavioral shifts do you recommend?[/quote]

You apply for jobs and you leave. You don’t sit around and wait to be fired. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Every manager, and every workplace isn’t toxic - I’ve had some mediocre bosses but I’ve never had a bad boss or a toxic boss (at least not until the Trump Administration… and you know what - I started applying for jobs as soon as they started treating federal workers disrespectfully and I quit because I won’t stand for it). If you believe that every work environment is toxic, you will stay forever and tolerate bad behavior. But it’s not true.

When you apply for jobs, you need to do a better job of screening employers. Read online reviews. Skip places where people report toxic culture. When you interview, don’t forget that you’re interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. Ask the person you’d report to about their management style. Ask them about how they respond when one of their reports makes a big mistake. Ask them how they prioritize competing demands and help their team members manage their competing workloads. If they give you a job offer, ask to speak with the people who will be your colleagues, etc, etc.

And truthfully, you should consider that you may be part of the problem. The way you’ve argued with people here makes you come across as someone who isn’t really receptive to feedback. Or that you’re one of those people who always views things in the most negative light possible - we all have a colleague or two that no matter what suggestions you may offer to a problem, there’s always a reason why it’s not really a solution and it can never work. So maybe you’re part of the reason why your workplaces aren’t great.

Also - maybe your boss wanted to review your emails because they didn’t like the way you write (which could just be stylistic preferences, but it could also be you not having the appropriate tone for the specific audience even if the writing was technically proficient, or maybe you’re just not as good of a writer as you think you are, etc). [/quote]

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