Reply to Not letting mother have a plus one to wedding

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Not letting mother have a plus one to wedding "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate weddings like this. Long divorced parents can't bring their significant others. No kids, no exceptions. Don't bring your same sex partner. Mixed race couple? You can come but we're seating you with some random co-workers and long lost cousins in the hallway.

It's their day and they can invite or exclude whoever they want but many of us enjoy weddings where there's love and generosity of spirit.[/quote]

Where was the love and generosity of spirit when it came time to traumatize BIL by breaking up his childhood home?

Generosity of spirit in this case is about recognizing that the choices of the parents had an adverse affect on their child, and that the parents can live with the consequences of the choice they made. Now that he’s marrying there’s going to be a lot of situations where they will get to live the consequences of their choices, like getting 1/3 Christmas instead of 1/2, etc. [/quote]

I guess you think it's better for someone to spend the rest of their life with a spouse who denigrates and dismisses them, cheats on them, hides money, and doesn't bother to spend any quality time with the kids.

THAT is much better than getting a divorce, I suppose. Because hey, guess what?!! You might get to sit next to that same pathetic excuse for a spouse at your kids' weddings some day!

Whee! Sign me up for that choice...

[/quote]

No?

I think — and it’s pretty well documented— that divorce is a major trauma for children. It can be done for all the right reasons and be ultimately the right decision and it will still be traumatic.

So if your child, now an adult, still has issues by the time they’re getting married, the parents who made the choice to divorce get to experience one of the obvious consequences of that choice and have to sit at a table with people they may not have preferred to for an event lasting up to six hours. I’m sorry that seems so unfair to you.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics