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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]About a month ago, a good friend from college asked me if she and her family could come stay with us for one Friday night in a couple weeks to break up their drive to a wedding the next day. Of course I said yes since I am excited to see her and catch up.

At the same time, one of my current closest mom friends has been trying to plan a 40th birthday trip and of course, literally the only weekend that works for the majority of the group is the same weekend my college friend is supposed to be visiting.

I am strongly considering cancelling on my college friend to go on this trip since all of my close friends will be there and it seems a bit crazy to prioritize a friend who needs a place to crash driving over a big celebration, but is this horrible? And what do I say to my college friend? She can be sensitive and if I tell her I am going on a trip with other friends I know it will hurt her.[/quote]

This is the best I got, but I'm not sure you can pull it off. I might float something like this depending on how close and honest I can be with my friends. FWIW, if one of my friends was in this dilemma I would 100 percent want them to tell me bc crashing at someone's house out of convenience is &lt; an amazing wknd with mom friends. (As a mom myself.)

Hi College Friend-
I'm so looking forward to our catchup! I wanted to check in on specifics of your plans. Do you think you'll arrive in time for us to go out to dinner? So I can plan for the morning/breakfast ideas, what time are you aiming to get on the road?

I also wanted to check if there's any possibility that you all could stay with us on your drive back on Sunday--especially if we might get to spend more time together? For full disclosure, I was planning a trip with a group of friends and didn't realize this weekend was one of the options--that's what they decided to book. You are still my priority but I thought I would check in to see if it's possible for me to make it to both.

If that's not doable no sweat; I know how tricky it is to coordinate travel with kids, and I will look forward to hosting you all on Friday.[/quote]

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