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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just transitioned from public to private for middle school, where half the grade is doing Capital Cotillion, and there is general consternation about how new girls can't participate because they don't have enough boys.

This is not an issue for me as we wouldn't be doing it regardless, but it does make me pause and wonder: How does thing remain so popular and yet so totally frozen in amber? I have so many questions... If you are sending your young adolescents, do you worry about how alienating it may feel to LGBTQ adolescents who aren't "out" yet, and how do you handle that?

The website says "While we embrace tradition and the importance it plays in our society, we believe that keeping current with the needs of today’s youth is equally important. We prepare our students with social skills for the “elite experience” without promoting the elitist paradigm of the past."

The fact that they won't deviate from their 50-50 gender ratio just seems AWFULLY out of step. Can someone explain why someone can't do something more inclusive? There are plenty of ballroom dancing studios that  manage to do better ....

(Also, a little more snarky now: How DOES "the elite experience" differs from "the elitist paradigm of the past"? Anyone able to explain?)

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Oh, don’t worry — there is a solution. The “Nonbinary Cotillion Parent Group Chat” is alive and well, we meet every Thursday night via encrypted Slack channel. Our syllabus covers:

Gender-Neutral Bowing: You incline exactly 37 degrees regardless of orientation.

Elitist Paradigm History 101: We discuss why "the elite experience" is just “elitism with better branding and Canva graphics.”

Cha-Cha But Make It Fluid: Partners are assigned based on astrology charts, not chromosomes.

We tried to pitch this to Capital Cotillion but were told that “the elite experience” required a strict 50/50 split because apparently math is tradition. (Nothing screams “timeless social grace” like spreadsheet quotas for 12-year-olds.)

As for LGBTQ kids not yet out? Don’t worry — Capital Cotillion does offer a cutting-edge inclusivity option: you can be “the quirky friend in the corner” or “the one who mysteriously has the flu every Friday evening until March.” Very forward-thinking.[/quote]

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