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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- everyone saying it's not my problem. I understand he is not my problem but in my mind, stability for my children is my problem. For example, if he moves to a studio far away and can't drive, then does he stop having custody of the kids? That would be so traumatic for them.

I have all my savings. He drained his savings to pay for his dui.[/quote]

It's more about conflicting priorities.  In this case, your first priority is your kids.  Keeping your kids in your current home is hugely advantageous to them.  You also need to figure out how to get those rides.  If you can't do it, start looking at other options, including a part-time driver.

There is a risk that the amount of time they spend with their dad will be limited by his losing his job and getting a DUI, but those things are outside of your control.  The best you can do right now to feel more in control is figure out how to make things work independently.  Assume you will pay for 100% of the kids' costs and will have 100% of the responsibility for driving them around, and plan accordingly.

What will happen if he ends up in a studio far away and can't drive? Maybe he'll take a bus and have dinner with them a few nights a week.  Maybe you'll drive them back and forth to his studio every other weekend.  These things are manageable. [/quote]

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