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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m following bc I have the same issue, except much more frequently - at least once a day. After one of these outbursts, which are usually targeted at me and centered on how everything bad in his world is my fault, I am depleted and want to crawl into a hole. Like I literally have to go lie down in fetal position to recuperate. He has always been like this - he used to throw and destroy objects when he was younger, putting holes in the walls. He grew out of that and now it’s more yelling/cursing/storming around/blaming. He has pushed me a few times, but not in many years. I have taken him to so many doctors. He has been diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD and is medicated, but I sometimes find his pills hidden and even when I have watched him take his medication, he acts the same. I have tried taking him to numerous talk therapists over the years and he sits there, will not answer their questions or engage in talk therapy. If they ask him if anything is wrong, he says his life is great. School counselors have tried talking to him and he clams up or says everything is fine. I don’t blame him for being angry. [b]His dad is a mess and destroyed our marriage [/b]and his career with his explosive temper, and even though his temper made everyone at home miserable, my son is still furious at me for divorcing him. He has tons of friends and is beloved by friends’ parents, who do not see this side of him. He gets near perfect grades. I have tried consequences but they don’t work. There isn’t anything he cares about enough that he doesn’t mind giving it up except his phone, which I have tried taking away but inevitably he will need it for logistics and homework coordination with classmates. He is also a perfectionist. At this point, [b]I feel like I am living with his dad again, always walking on eggshells [/b]wondering when he will explode next and preferring to avoid him bc spending time with him is so unpleasant because it always ends up with him yelling at me about something. For those saying forgive, forgive, forgive, if I just let him act like this without consequence, won’t I just be raising him to be an adult who destroys his own marriage with his temper (or even worse, is physically abusive and harms another person)? But talking about it, trying consequences, trying therapy, nothing has worked. I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel hopeless.  [/quote]

Do you talk like that around him? If so, it's no wonder he doesn't like you. [/quote]

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