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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am one of the only women on a team of men. I have a very generic white woman name, think ‘Jessica’ or ‘Hannah’. About six months ago, a new man joined the team. He seems to be nice enough but he cannot remember my name - despite having no issue with the men’s names.

Every time I meet with him, he either calls me some other name beginning with the same letter or a nickname of my actual name that I do not go by (so say my name is Jessica…I get ‘Jane’, ‘Jessie’, ‘Jennifer’, etc.) Last week I was so frustrated that I snapped at him when he started with the wrong name and said ‘Again, my name is not Jane. It is Jessica. JESSICA.’ It is starting to feel a bit demeaning: I think my boss picked up on it as well as he corrected him in a recent meeting as well (“Bob, I believe you are referring to Jessica Smith, we do not have a Jane on this team.”) This man does not have any cognitive issues or disabilities that I’m aware of.

How would you address going forward? I already feel like the odd one out much of the time and it’s kind of embarrassing to have to keep correcting him. [/quote]

1) how often do you meet with him

2) men have a strong bias for monosyllabic names - it’s why we have so many short nicknames. John, Paul, George, Kurt, Kirk, Wade, Frank, Luke, Mark. Jim, Bob, Dave, Chris, Sam, Tom, Joe, Matt. How many syllables in your “common” name vs the men in the group? Do they go by short nicknames?
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