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[quote=Anonymous]She’s gaslighting and playing little old victim who never gets invited over (despite being invited and declining) to get attention, sympathy and most importantly compliance with her upcoming demand. She wants you to apologize and gush over her while she invites herself over for a performative holiday visit. She wants to be entertained, get holiday photos, and be fawned over. She may have main character syndrome.

This is not sustainable. As the kids get older, they will NOT want to celebrate their birthdays with granny being center stage. They’ll have sports or a test to study or they’ll want to do things as friends. They will have zero interest in celebrating St Patrick’s day, Valentines Day and the other minor holidays.

What do you do..

1. Don’t enable the manipulative gaslighting. When she fusses about how she’s never invited, be direct and clear listing all the recent times she has declined or bailed.
2. Do not change your plans for whatever holiday or event for her. If it works to invite her, let her come if it doesn’t then don’t.

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