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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn’t sleep with anyone until we were exclusive.[/quote]

+1 and I'm a man. Can't enjoy being intimate with someone until we know each other well enough to have the exclusively talk.[/quote]

You are a rare exception. 70% men and women  on OLD have different partners at a time. It’s statistically confirmed, there was a report published at some point [/quote]

Another guy here and I have the same rule as PP. I make that clear very early. [/quote]

Another guy here. I would say I have rules and I don't have certain things that I [i]need[/i] to make clear, but I do better with exclusivity and I'm a pretty open communicator. If a woman is less clear and it seems like she's keeping her options very open I may give it a shot but so far that dynamic has never held my interest for long.

And in terms of assessing sexual compatibility, I do better when I feel very desired, not when I feel like I'm one of 4 guys a woman is presently trying out.

And I do better without condoms. [/quote]

As a woman, I only start my relationship “open” both ways. Me seeing someone else won’t prevent me from showing a real interest and passion if I’m really into you. But I don’t want to be “exclusive” just because a man wants to f..k raw. It’s risky for my heath to date serially one “exclusive” man after another with unprotected sex, in a sequence of mid-term relationships. I did have minor STDs and UTIs from that, because men tend to lie a lot and these relationships often fizzle, too. So the choices are  1. Delay sex with everyone until I really know the person - not great as I risk losing potentially interesting man or 2. Use condoms even after agreeing to exclusivity to build a long term trust. All relationships start with a 3rd date sex as this is what men want on OLD but all with condoms only PIV, open only and no fluids exchange like oral sex etc.

Men created stupid games, men are trying to “test” multiple women so we, women, are now playing by your rules and adjusting to mitigate our emotional and health risks accordingly

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