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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey OP, is your friend actually asking men directly what they are looking for when they first start messaging? I know that society historically tells us that women aren't supposed to ask that as to appear too needy and scare a man off, but a man who is looking for a relationship will be honest and say so. A man looking for a hookup may be honest and say so, or he might say he doesnt know what he is looking for, he just wants to wait and see what happens, depends on the woman, etc.

Conversely, is she putting out “just want to have fun” vibes either in her pics or profile or both? If she wants a relationship she needs to own it. The fact that many of her first dates are dancing leads me to believe that she is portraying herself as a party girl/doesnt want anything serious.

Fwiw, I have a good male friend in ftlaud/miami who met his long-term gf on old. They are both normal people (albeit tan and in shape, he much moreso before he moved to S Florida) who found each other. It can happen!!

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I had just gotten out of a long-term, unhappy relationship when I met DH, and I was putting out fun-only vibes.  I had no interest in commitment, exclusivity, or expectations of any kind.  It drove him crazy.  He was ready to get married in 3 months, but we waited.  Maybe if your cousin tries taking off the pressure and dating for fun with no expectations, she will find what she is looking for in the process. [/quote]

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