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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, but YTA. You’ve repeatedly circumvented him when you know it’s important to him? That’s WAY worse than being mediocre at a task.

You need to do one of two things:

1) Go to him, ask to discuss how you handle household repairs, apologize for being a jerk about it, and see if you can mutually agree on a new path given that having repairs stretch on longer than absolutely necessary is a real pet peeve of yours. Hear him out too! Maybe you can rejigger your chore balance so you take this on with his blessing, maybe you can find a different way to split it (urgent repairs vs. improvements/upgrades? A time limit after which you take over?) But jeez, make it an open discussion don’t go behind his back!

2) Back. off. Get over yourself and let him do it his way without interference or meddling from you. [/quote]

Ugghhh. I hate these responses. Why do you need to coddle your spouse's ego when they suck at this and it costs time and money?

My own husband has screwed up the repairs with the repair people on our gas fireplace twice, so it hasn't worked now for a few years.

He doesn't shop around. He half-asses, and if you dare to say anything he acts like a huge baby. It's a massive turn off and makes me want to scream.

No one would blink an eye if a husband who was good at repairs told his wife she wasn't and to let him handle. This isn't about feelings. It's about handling things in fact, in the real world.[/quote]

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