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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound too immature to be marrying anyone.[/quote]

I’m not. I’m realistic. I want to marry a man who is an active husband and father before anything. [b]I ( we) are planning on having 2-4 kids and I do not want to be the sole bearer of raising kids. I will never quit my job and do not want to feel like I’m competing with a high earning partner.[/b] [/quote]

This is what your friends are warning you about. If you make a fraction of what he does, you’re going to pick up the kids every time they’re sick. Unless he’s doing this from home and doesn’t have many meetings or clients. [/quote]

This is the downside no one really talks about. My dh hit a point in his career where he could move to executive levels and I let him know I wanted no part of that. We knew what the jobs would entail and knew couples living this life. We both scrimped and saved a ridiculous amount as I didn't want him to be too enticed by the salaries. Despite our agreement, he took a job that lead him to a large leadership role that caused him to be at work all the time. He generally worked through Christmas and New Years. It was miserable. I also have a kid with learning disabilities and we had issues with the school. I was a sahm and it was often overwhelming. Our kids are grown now and I still have strong feelings about his choices. [/quote]

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