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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give them equal time. The when and what don't need to be decided. The equal time, though, needs to happen.[/quote]

Totally disagree about equal time. My parents swoop in all the time to help dh and I, watch the kids for 2 weeks so dh and I can travel, and take us all on an international vacation yearly. The other side just asks when we're visiting (and it's a lot of work for us to visit them, but I do it). I'm willing to plan anything for my parents. I don't have the bandwidth to plan anything for inlaws, so I let dh take the lead on that. He plans nothing. I'm sure my inlaws will want a week that my kids are really looking forward to at a special summer camp. They never pick a week that would help us.

I do believe in equal holidays though. I rotate holidays between our sides of the family. [/quote]

You’re modeling for your kids that the dad’s side of the family is less important than the mom’s. Hope you don’t have sons.[/quote]

No you are modeling that relationships are two way streets. I don’t expect my kids to drop everything, give up family vacations and pamper me. If I give nothing I shouldn’t expect people to jump for me. Good grief! [/quote]

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