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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even the OP of this (really pedantic) thread misses an opportunity:

(1) Favoritism disadvantages people with neurodivergencies;
(2) Most coaches (outside of perhaps special educators) are ill-equipped to see beyond the conformist-behaved child and work within a neurodivergency rather than push against it and blackball it;
(3) Many replies to this post support (1) and (2), suggesting an outcast status — notwithstanding swimming ability — for children who are unable to conform to average (or exceptional) attention span, average (or exceptional) engagement, and average (or exceptional) communication.
This post says more about people’s disfavor for neurodivergent children than it does about private planes and giving a kid a spot in an A meet (which, BTW, you can look up the private plane borrower’s children to see where the facts stand to that end).

We need to do better.[/quote]

I read this as, “my kid requires significant special and extra attention for the same price as everyone else.  S/he doesn’t get that attention, and that’s a problem.  Society is broken.”   I’d love to be corrected if this isn’t the case.

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DP but, no, that's not what this means.

My kid is ND and one accommodation we asked for at swim is that she be exempt from a birthday tradition where the child with the birthday gets tossed up in the air by one of the coaches after the whole pool sings happy birthday. This happened the first year and my kid, who has sensory issues and hates being the center of attention, hates it.

The coaches have learned not to do stuff like this with my kid, who is otherwise conscientious, coachable, and a good, fast swimmer. They have learned she sometimes has a flat affect when they are expecting smiling enthusiasm, and that this doesn't mean she's mad or upset. But all of this also makes it hard for them to like her, and she is not among their favorites even though she's a better swimmer than some kids who are favorites and is not disruptive.

This is what the PP is referring to. This is the cost of bring ND in settings where there is a high value placed on being conformist and being able to perform "normalcy" in a way that meets expectations. It's being the kid who participated and follows directions, but the coaches whisper is "weird" or "just off" behind their back.[/quote]

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