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[quote=Anonymous]"What's the point of dating again at 50, anyway? Everyone that age has baggage, and women almost always get left carrying the load. Now that I'm in my 40s, I finally understand why my grandmother, who was widowed in her 40s, never dated again. She had a vibrant social life up until she passed at 99. She had a close relationship with her kids and grandkids. And most importantly to her, she didn't have to take care of another man and his extended family. She alluded that the second half of her life was the best half."

Because not all men are losers. Some men evolve and learn and develop the ability to be great partners over time.

You mention baggage, but baggage mainly comes from one's childhood. Most young people marrying in their 20s and 30s haven't even realized yet that they carry baggage from childhood wounds, and even fewer have dealt with it and learned healthy coping skills. That's why so many will eventually divorce. Some of those who divorce will do the work and figure out that they married the wrong sort of person or they behaved in unhealthy ways in their marriage, and they learn to do it differently the second time around.

I don't understand why it's so hard for people to see why a 50-something would want to meet a partner. You wouldn't question why a 25-yr-old who couldn't have children would want a life partner. We pair off for reasons beyond procreation. Humans are not solitary creatures, and your interest in someone attractive doesn't evaporate when you turn 49. For many people, their drive and enjoyment goes up after 50, especially once the kids are grown and out of the house.

As as for the grandma in the above post, my guess is that her extended family and her children lived close by and that she had lots of siblings. That's pretty rare these days. My parents, siblings, children, and I live in 3 different time zones. I'll spend Mothers' Day alone, without my mom or my children.

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