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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here not a troll worked like crazy so wife didn't have to . I know mostly what to get for him . Just trying to make sure I don't forget anything.  [/quote]

That's a ridiculous excuse, OP. My father worked a lot because my mother was disabled, but he also cooked and cleaned, made my lunchbox, drove me to school, sewed buttons and clothing labels, and put together my IKEA furniture. All the things my mother could not do. Being checked-out is always a crime when it comes to your children.

DCUM can't help you anyway when it comes to details. Your child is very much his own person, and will need things that maybe not all 4 year olds need. You really seem not to know how to be a parent! Your child needs input on some of this stuff, he's 4, he has opinions and preferences: he's not an accessory you've suddenly decided to pluck away from your wife, just because she humiliated you. If your wife just left, making a list of stuff shouldn't be your top priority. It should be talking to her to establish some baseline of communication, as well as talking to your child to reassure him that his father is present in his life.

You're just so messed up.

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Wow!  DCUM seems pretty harsh tonight.  I don’t know why you’re assuming that he’s not trying to reassure his child or coordinate with his wife.  Moreover, rather than him suddenly deciding to pluck the child from his wife, it sounds like she suddenly decided to pluck the child from him.  After being blindsided and cleaned out, he’s trying to reprovision so that he’ll be prepared to maintain a relationship with the boy.  While he’ll apparently have to assume more responsibility, I think it’s unfair to treat him as someone who is a stranger to his son.  I imagine coming home and finding your child and everything related to the child missing would be enough to send someone reeling.  In such an emotional state, I think it’s understandable that he would be asking for input to make sure he didn’t forget anything important.  Personally, on a routine trip to the grocery store, I know I’m liable to forget something, and that’s when I’m not in crisis mode and it only inconveniences me, not my traumatized child whose world has been turned upside down.

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AND WHAT DOES HE DO? HE ASKS THE WIVES ON DCUM.

He's not stepping up in the least. Just farming out to other mothers. He does not deserve help at all.

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