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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I talk to parents who know their kids are kind of mean and really just shrug it off.   They tell themselves not everyone can be friends, kids are kids, what are they supposed to do when little Larla doesn't want to hang around with Larlette anymore.  And they don't care because their kid is usually doing fine socially.

If they are confronted about specific behavior by another parent, they don't respond well and they tell everyone they know too and paint it like the other parent is a lunatic.  This is why my go to advice is never say anything to the parents.  Even if you think it went well, it didn't.[/quote]

Well, part of that is true- if Larla has a number of good friends, [b]and has had some disagreements with Larlette or they no longer share the same interests,[/b] why should they be forced to hang out together? It is true, not everyone can be friends.  I don't think Larla should be mean to Larlette but it doesn't mean she has to invite her to her birthday, or choose her as a partner in class, or actively seek her out at recess, if she prefers different friends right now.  It is not Larla's job to fix Larlette's social struggles.   And yeah, if you confront Larla's mom about Larlette not being invited to something, you do kind of look like a lunatic, unless the "something" is a full class party and Larlette was the only one excluded (if that happens, i'm totally on Larlette's side, don't worry)[/quote]

Well let's be real.  This is not usually what it is.  Kids who can ditch other kids to trade up to what they perceive as a cooler/better set of friends, a lot of times they do it.  Acting like these kids are all rationally evaluating who they have things in common with or subtly distancing themselves after a disagreement is pretty laughable.

My view is life isn't fair.  By middle school, a whole bunch of variables that have zero to do with what kind of person you are and how you treat other people begin to have value.  Kids have to work through all this and figure out what they are willing to do and who they are in this context.  If you are rich and/or attractive, this is when they start figuring this out and the power this gives them.

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