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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my kids were little, I told them to do things, as opposed to asking. "Go put on pjs and brush your teeth."  Rather than "Do you want to go pick out your pjs and brush teeth?" No. I am the adult and it was my place to tell them what to do. I had to make a very conscious effort around [b]senior year of college[/b] to change the way I spoke to them. I didn't switch to asking but instead of "Empty the kitchen trash now," it became "I'm starting dinner at 6pm and want the kitchen trash emptied before then, so you can get it done any time in the next two hours." And then when they were living elsewhere and visiting, I further switched to asking. "Would you please empty the kitchen trash as soon as you finish that?" I had to really think about it. Maybe your mom never made that switch. [/quote]

Wow.  I switched that when they were about 10.  They know these aren’t really requests, but it is much more pleasant for everyone if they are phrased as such.

I can’t imagine ordering a senior in college to empty the trash.  They have been a grown adult for 4 years!  Some of you are very rude.  Do you order your spouses as well?  My DH has the sense not to command me, thank goodness for him![/quote]

I mistyped- should say senior year of HS, not college. [/quote]

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