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[quote=Anonymous][quote]My mom is a harder case. She has some great qualities, but is really volatile and can be very mean. I've realized as an adult that she has never had a friendship last for more than 2-3 years. She eventually turns on the person and is awful to them, often making up stuff that isn't true and manufacturing drama. I distanced myself from her when I was a teen because she wasn't kind to me (putting it nicely), but tried to build a more healthy relationship with her as an adult. We do okay for a bit (a few years at a time), but then it implodes and she attacks me again. I haven't had a relationship with her for about 2 years since she last exploded at me and I don't know what to do. I don't trust her to be kind or fair to me, and she's now spent two years telling the family what an awful person I am and vilifying me. So we're pretty stuck. I'd have a relationship with her if I could have firm boundaries, but I don't know how to get there. Any information she learns about me right now basically becomes family gossip about how I'm an awful person and parent, so I do my best to share as little as possible with her.

Don't get me wrong, both my parents have good aspects. They just also have major character flaws too, especially that they don't really consider me to be a full person with feelings. I'm the family punching bag and they think I deserve it.[/quote]

I could have written this. I am done being hurt by her. She is a narcissist and is now character assassinating me to my sister, who sees right through it but it apparenlty not brave enough to do anything about it. 
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