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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I try to avoid giving physical compliments.

When I was a kid I was told I was beautiful often.  So much so I did child modeling.

Then I went through puberty and was not cute.  The comments stopped.  I noticed and it plummeted my self confidence.

Now I’m a slightly above average looking adult who still struggles deeply with self confidence.  I find myself depending on compliments from those around me for self worth.  I’m actually in therapy for it.

Perhaps an extreme example but I do avoid giving compliments like this.  [/quote]

Your feelings have nothing to do with your looks or the comments you received about them.  Your feelings had everything to do with your parents and how they treated you.  Only a "special" type of parent allows theor kid to model - it actually says a lot about the other types of messages you received as a kid and why you feel the way you do.

FWIW I have 4 kids.  One is super model gorgeous and has been since birth.  The rest are pretty, but not in the same league. Everyone told me she should be a model.  Once she hit puberty everyone told her she should be a model.  She asked me why she wasn't put in modeling and I said that it is a choice she has to make and I don't want to influence how she views that career path.  We've discussed in length the pitfalls of that career.  She's on the fence about it at 15 yo.  Now if she wants to do it, I'll support her.  She also has an IQ of 145 and wants to me a medical doctor.  I don't want her to lose one dream for another.

Her self confidence shouldn't be tied to how she looks.  Neither should yours.[/quote]

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