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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are fickle. You say that everyone has said that he is the problem. But they probably say to him that you are a problem.

Your relationship with him is for you to navigate. Stop relying on what other people think and/or say. [/quote]

Thanks for making me feel like sh-t. I don't rely on them ever. That's why I'm feeling slighted. Maybe I am the problem, but if so I'm okay with it because I'm not going to loosen my boundaries. [/quote]

Interesting. My post didn't "make" you feel anything, least of all like "sh-t." I didn't "make you" anything. You are responsible for your own feelings. And trying to put the responsibility for your emotions on someone else is very immature. In fact, you just proved my point -- you seem to be way over reliant on what others think or say. Apparently to the extent that not only are your family members affecting you, a few sentences on dcum are enough to "make" you "feel like sh-t." Get some therapy. Seriously. [/quote]

I understand I’m responsible for my thoughts, and am admittedly extra sensitive today. But, at what point do you believe people? Should I really assume that they’re badmouthing me to my brother? I’m not saying nobody ever grumbles about me, but I’m not sure I’d want a relationship with people who I can’t trust. It may be my problem, but I wouldn’t want a relationship with them if they are stoking his ire about me.

I told them I was hurt when he cut me off, but I don’t badmouth or talk about him. I don’t need him to change for me.

I’ve been in therapy for years. Grief is compounding everything. [/quote]

I have a narcissistic sister. Your family probably stays silent about your brother because it means you’re the target and they’re not. It’s convenient. 
That they’re not defending you - they don’t want to get in the line of fire.

It’s disappointing but it’s about self preservation.

Maybe consider a different therapist who can help you deal with why others opinions affects you so much.
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